Ready to heal your trauma?
(Yeah, I wasn’t either)
TRAUMA RESOLUTION
SECURE ATTACHMENT
NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION
CAN YOU RELATE?
I didn’t really want to do this work
Look at my childhood? My emotions? Who willingly goes poking around in there? Not me.
Instead, I was obsessed with personal growth (aka trying to “fix” myself) and all things spiritual.
But anything that asked me to slow down, drop into my body, and actually feel what was happening? No thanks. I either felt numb or too much.
When an unexpected breakup brought me to my knees, I was desperate to make the pain STOP. I didn’t know it at the time, but what I was about to learn about my nervous system and trauma would change the course of my life forever.
LET’S NORMALIZE FEAR
I was motivated AND afraid.
Does your inner dialogue sound something like this?
“I can’t afford to fall apart. What if I completely unravel and can’t pull myself back together?”
“I’m afraid I’ll spiral into a dark place or slip into another depression and won’t be able to get myself back out.”
“I’m terrified I’ll find out (from a professional) that I’m fundamentally flawed.”
“I’m afraid of being judged. I don’t want anyone to know that I’m struggling this much.”
“I’ve tried so many things. I’m tired of getting my hopes up only to have my excitement replaced by failure.”
[deep exhale] I get it. Those were my fears as I considered this work.
SAFETY IS HEALING
Trying something new is a risk, and fear is our natural response.
But my worst fears didn’t come true
I wasn’t asked to stretch, strain, lean into my edge, go outside my comfort zone, or share anything that I didn’t want to.
The language of the nervous system is safety.
Your system is on high alert with alarms going off and locked in a defensive posture because at some point, your lived experience was too intense for you to mentally or emotionally process or it seemed dangerous enough that you might not survive.
So your nervous system made a series of executive decisions on your behalf to keep you sane, safe, and alive.
We need to give your nervous system the felt-sense, not just the thought, but a deep, consistent, felt-sense, that it is safe.
When this happens, your body will let go of its defensive behavior. Tension will unwind, stuck emotions will naturally be released, and you will feel free.
Hi, I’m David.
NOTHING moved the needle like building a deep, felt sense of safety in my nervous system.
I tried affirmations, EFT, cold showers, and 3-hour morning routines. I did Holotropic Breathwork, men’s work, plant medicine, Tantra, yoga, and wore out dozens of meditation cushions along the way.
I read all the books, hired all the coaches, bought the online courses, and joined the elite masterminds.
Even after decades of work, underneath a calm exterior, my internal “resting” state was still one of almost constant fear.
After 2 years of deep dive somatic work, I become a certified Interpersonal Embodied Healing™ practitioner.
You don’t have to do this alone. In the moments where you are afraid, I’ve got you.
Results:
Attracted a healthy relationship
Came out of freeze
Was able to access anger and healthy aggression
Confidence
Was able to set noundaries with care and ease
Not solely focused on the mind, thinking new thoughts, or changing your behavior.
Trauma lives in the body, and to truly move through it, you need a method that speaks the language of your nervous system and helps you develop a deep, internal sense of safety. That's where real, lasting change can happen.
It’s incredibly brave, all that you’ve been doing to find peace and healing. But it sounds like these methods haven't quite hit the mark for you, and I think I might understand why.
You know, all those therapies and practices have their own strengths, but from what you've shared, it seems like they haven’t directly engaged with your nervous system, which is really where the trauma is gripping you. It's like they’ve been working around the edges of the garden without getting to the roots.
Not just a series of The calming practices like yoga and meditation, they're wonderful for bringing you into the present moment, but they might not reach deep enough to flip the switch in your nervous system from survival mode to a state of safety and regulation. To put it simply, they soothe you, but they don’t necessarily rewire the alarm system that's constantly on high alert inside you.
And while self-help resources inspire and medication can stabilize, they don't get down to the core of early developmental trauma or address that profound need for secure attachment. It's like they’re trying to reprogram the software when what’s needed is a hardware fix.
What I think you're looking for – and correct me if I'm wrong – is something that acknowledges and works with the whole you, something that helps you feel in your bones that you're safe and that your body is a safe place to be. This isn't just about calming thoughts or even calming feelings; it's about calming your body's fear responses at the most basic level.
A somatic approach could be the key to unlocking this for you, Sophia. It’s all about creating a healing experience where you don't just understand safety intellectually but experience it viscerally. It’s hands-on work that helps your body learn to regulate itself and change your physiological response to the world, making you feel more secure and grounded.
You deserve to find a path that leads to the kind of healing you've been searching for – one that doesn’t just skirt around the shadows but gently brings light to them. Let’s explore this path together, with patience and hope, okay?
How is this different?
We won’t do this:
Rush your process
Drop you into a cookie-cutter system
Immediately deep dive into your past
Unnecessarily and endlessly talk about your past
We will do this:
Move at the pace of your nervous system
Identify and use internal and external resources that help you feel supported during and in between sessions
Focus on building your capacity before exploring any difficult emotions
Practice tools for self-regulation to build resilience and confidence
Follow your body’s wisdom and impulses
“During our first session, we identified and began to soothe a part of me that had been stuck in terror and was trying to get my attention for weeks.”
“I have worked with a lot of practitioners over the years. David has an uncanny ability to feel into the parts of me that are calling out for help.”
—CL
“I feel more free than ever to be myself and trust that who I am is enough.”
“I’ve spent most my life in crippling fear of rocking the boat, both personally and professionally. Through consistent 1:1 work over the past two years, I am now able to stand up for myself, set healthy boundaries, and stay present in the midst of some really difficult conversations. David has been such a healing presence throughout my journey. His empathy, wisdom, thoroughness and integrity are rare. I would recommend him whole heartedly to anyone wanting to embark on the journey of healing through this gentle, yet deeply transformational work.”
—SC
What does the journey look like?
The foundation of this work is safety. We’ll move at the pace of your nervous system.
Here are your next steps…
1. Connect
Schedule a free discovery call. We'll meet on Zoom for 30-40 minutes. You’ll share a little about you and where you are struggling. I’ll share a little about me, how we can work together, and answer any questions you have.
Then you get to decide. There is never any pressure. If you are ready to get started, there are two simple forms you’ll sign before we schedule our first session.
2. Practice, practice, practice
You’ll learn how your body, mind, and nervous system actually work and what they need for deep and sustainable healing.
I’ll model relational and somatic skills that create a deep felt-sense of safety. We’ll practice them every session. You’ll have these tools for life.
3. Exhale
You’ll begin to see changes. You’ll tell me how you handled a familiar challenge differently this time. You’ll advocate for yourself. You’ll be more at ease in your own skin. Others may comment on your calm confidence. You’ll exhale more deeply.
With more practice, the changes may start to snowball. This was my experience. Longstanding pattens dissolve. So do some of your negative core beliefs.
One day, you’ll show up for a session and share how you faced a formidable life challenge. One that would have sidelined you in the past. This time, you knew exactly what to do, exactly how to tend to yourself, and you did it all on your own. This is often where clients “graduate” themselves.
Life doesn’t suddenly become perfect all the time. You don’t become an unaffected robot. But your foundation is now one of safety. You can confidently navigate what life’s ups and downs. YOU’VE got you. You are the safest relationship you’ve ever had.
Frequently asked questions
You may be wondering…
What is your current availability?
As of 11/09/23, I have immediate openings on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday each week.
What are your rates?
I don’t offer single sessions for new clients. It takes time and consistency to build safety and trust—usually around 3 months or 12 sessions. The cost for 12, 50-minute sessions is $1596 ($133 per session). This can either be paid in full or in 3 monthly payments of $532.
Do you offer a guarantee?
I do. I really want this to work for you. If at any time during our first month, you don’t feel like this is a good fit (for any reason), let me know and I will gladly refund all of your unused sessions.
Have another question? I’m here to help.
